Have you ever asked the Lord why he gave you your family?
Why not have a different family, or have the power to switch families with your
friends’ or some celebs’ perhaps? Worse, have you ever prayed for your family
to be gone in a snap? Well, I had those times. Not really those times, but
quite close with those circumstances. In this post, I will describe you what
kind of family I have now, and what lessons I have learned for the past couple of
months that made me realize that I have one of the best families in the planet.
I hope that after you read this, you will treasure the family that God has
blessed you with.
I used to hate my family ‘cause it’s a whole lot different
compared to others’. I had this thing of comparing my family to my friends’
family, and ended up having gabazillion questions in mind, which usually start
with “WHY.” Some thinks that I come from a very perfect home, and living a very
perfect life because of how I represent myself, but what they cannot see are
the tears behind every smile that I project. My family is not as perfect as
they think.
My dad used to be a veterinarian, and co-owner of a poultry.
We used to have a poultry, but he had to give that up to enter into a new
business since poultry is hard to manage. He entered into agricultural
business, wherein he managed a papaya plantation—not really a plantation, but
you know what I mean. It was successful, but due to some personal reasons, he
had to give that up also. Now, he is a retired businessman, I can say. He’s
just staying here at home and helping his parents, my grandparents, around the
house. My mom, used to be our homemaker, left the country last 1997 to study
arts, especially photography, and eventually entered into medical field, and
now she is an assistant brain surgeon in Philadelphia, USA. My sister, who has
always been my hero, is now an engineer and a mother of two beautiful children.
She is definitely the most responsible woman I know. Last is my brother whom I
always describe as a very handsome young man, is now in his last year in
college. Just simple description of my family, to let you know that we’re
simple as that, and we’re not that perfect, we’re just humans.
I grew up in a very cozy home. It was small, near the church
and some fast food chains. There were trees, and a backyard where I can play
along with my sibs and cousins. I grew up with a whole lot traditions to be
followed, and I get used to it. I had a great family, until October 1997, when
my mom left us. Yes, I come from a broken family. And yes again, I used to get
jealous with those whose families are complete, but I got the hang out of it,
and accepted the fact that this is the kind of family that I am blessed with.
Now, you’re asking how? Let me share it with you…
First I shall ask, why hate a family that was given to you
when all they do is love to love you. That made you think, right? Well, great!
How can I hate the family who did nothing but to accept and to understand me
beyond my imperfections? It is hard to be a rebel just because of the situation
that you didn’t even know how to control. I just came to realize that it is
pointless to be a rebel for it will not just hurt the people who love me so
much, but it will also hurt myself a lot. Being a spoiled bratt that I am, I
used to follow my own rules, and yes, be with my friends rather than attending
family gatherings. I had that I’m-choosing-my-friends-over-family moments. I
have realized that it was so wrong. It is unfair to follow my own rules, while
my family always do the adjustments. What is sad about my realizations is that
I had to experience one huge problem before I come to realized that what I’m
doing is all wrong, and I have to change for the better. It took me a long time
before I realized these things.
Now, for those like me, do not waste time with your family
just because you’re mad at the current situation. Live for today, and do not
worry about tomorrow for it is yet to come. Spend time with your loved ones,
and do not let your today be a regret of your tomorrow. If you’re thinking that
you have yet to experience that one huge happening that will have a big impact
in your life before changing, then think again. True, “experience is the best
teacher” but you have to admit, everyday is a new experience and this should me
enough for a better learning.
I’m hoping for everyone to change their negative views
towards their family and encouraging everyone to not just be part of the
family, but to be one with the family. You don’t need to be rich, nor poor to
be a one happy family. All you need is to share that one great love and be
united all the time. Love them now while you still have them.
“Like the branches on a tree, we all grow in different
directions, yet our roots remain as one… because that is a FAMILY!”
If you have some issues/concerns about family that you want
to tackle, just let me know.
H|K : BlairC.N.
Tweet me @steffnazareth
No comments:
Post a Comment